Self Love Week

This week I have been taking part in ‘Self Love Week’ ran by Health & Wellbeing coach Mel Wells. Thousands of women have come together in attempt to learn to love themselves while supporting and inspiring eachother with their stories. Mel tackles a different topic each day through FB lives and sets challenges to complete on Instagram (find mine here.) I actually only heard about it Monday morning when I stumbled across someone else’s challenge #1 on Instagram. I thought ‘oh, I have some spare time, this is something that could benefit me’ but boy did I underestimate just how much I needed it!

It’s crazy just how much we strive for perfection, whether that’s as mums, as women or as human beings in general. I’m coming to realise that the curse of social media is massively to blame for the way I self-criticise and constantly compare myself to others, leading to feelings of inadequacy, jealousy and and self-doubt. There’s always someone with a better body, a better job, more money, a better social life. I even find I’ve been subconsciously pitting myself against other bloggers ‘they have more followers, more views, more likes’ and I think that’s part of the reason I haven’t posted for a while. I have been too focused on what others are doing to become successful and as a result I seem to have lost my reason for starting a blog in the first place. I’ve feel like I’ve lost my voice and my passion for writing. Wanting to share moments that are real. Finding the humour in new mama experiences (this is still my favourite and most popular post). Being me!

The challenges have been really thought-provoking. I didn’t realise I had a bad ‘relationship’ with my body – I’ve never yo-yo dieted or abused my body in any way I should be ashamed of. But I’ve really had to dig deep to find reasons why I love my body, to think about what I am proud of and to treat myself. It’s forced me to reflect on a lot of things and made me realise that I don’t need the approval of others to be happy. I am doing okay as a mum, as a wife, as an employee, as a friend and as a person. It doesn’t matter if my picture doesn’t get many likes or if someone has a flatter stomach than me. I need to stop punishing myself for having a ‘bad week’ of eating, lose the ‘I’ll start on Monday’ mindset, stop worrying if I have spent the day in my PJ’s and the washing hasn’t been done for days.

I understand social media is a snapshot of the highlights of people’s lives, I’m not so naive that I believe everyone else’s lives are perfect, but I am realising that there is no such thing as perfection. People see what they want to see – most of the time we are blind to other people’s struggles or insecurities. Seeing posts from some of the incredible women taking part in this week has really helped me put things in perspective and give me a sense of purpose again.

I know I have a lot to work on for myself and already have some ideas on how to make a start. I am thankful for this week and the support, empowerment and strength of others. I genuinely believe that you can’t be truly happy unless you learn to love yourself, and to love yourself you need to know who YOU are – a Goddess!

 

So, I’ll be here on my journey of getting to know myself, trying to be kinder to myself, and sharing my REAL experiences in motherhood and beyond. If you’ve made it this far – THANK YOU – would love to hear from you 🙂 xxx

A parenting & lifestyle blogger documenting my journey as a first time Mama

Sophie

A parenting & lifestyle blogger documenting my journey as a first time Mama

7 Responses

  1. Ted says:

    Such good advice in this post, I too have felt the need to be a perfect mother. When my son was a newborn I actually came off social media for a few months, it was so liberating for us both! Neither of us were compared to other parents/babies, I might do it once more

  2. Ted says:

    Such good advice in this post, I too have felt the need to be a perfect mother. When my son was a newborn I actually came off social media for a few months, it was so liberating for us both! Neither of us were compared to other parents/babies, I might do it again!!

    • Sophie says:

      Thank you. That’s a good idea, I know a few people who have done that. I might have to try it when I go back to work.. don’t want to be wasting time scrolling!

  3. Kerri says:

    It is becoming a common thing where people feel inadequate because of social media, but yet knowing this we still choose to fixate on this. As much as I enjoy and love social media, I see people who spend hours online, for example, I saw a guy who seems to always be on Instagram liking pictures, then looking at his followers is huge but that’s why. Sure, he has awesome pictures, but in all honesty, he puts in the work by taking the time to like people’s pictures. Social media shouldn’t be all about taking, but giving too 🙂 The importance of self-love doesn’t happen overnight it can be a never-ending journey. Take each day as it comes and people need to be kinder to ourselves 🙂 Great post!

  4. I’m reading this with washing heaped on the stairs and a grubby kitchen! It’s good to know that nobody – nobody at all – is perfect.

  5. Lucie Aiston says:

    AMAZING post!! Thank you. I needed to read this. Lots of self doubting going on here too at the mo. This post has helped me lots so thank you xx

    • Sophie says:

      Aww that’s lovely to hear, you’re welcome! It’s so easy to get sucked in and doubt yourself, sometimes we just need to take a step back 😊 xx

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *